Too much of these kinds of inputs, especially when trying to manage a social persona, can send me into a state of being almost non-functional, very close to what many call 'shutdown'. telling people i have it doesn't help them help me. We rule! I'm not looking for a diagnosis but I would like to know if it is something I should be concerned about. We found 150+ Asperger’s famous people…and even with a bit of overlap, there are lots of new faces too! A way to think about this is that Aspergers shifts you down the spectrum one spot, to the next group. It makes me feel like an idiot a lot, which adds to anxiety, and the more anxiety the higher a chance my mind will go into void state. What's wrong with you? Asperger’s syndrome is a form of autism. What I do read, I read as 'intent', not as the person's actual emotions which I have to infer secondarily. So socially, nothing too bad, I'd say I try to be too self aware and that causes my downfall. Sensory sensitivities to things like light (summer sunlight, florescent lights, car headlights at night), noise (lots of noise, noisy environments, several people talking at once, etc), specific food textures or tastes. small talk is very difficult. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. The first option presents you with one question at a time and when you answer this question then you can proceed onto the next question. I have it too, although I am NT. .LalRrQILNjt65y-p-QlWH{fill:var(--newRedditTheme-actionIcon);height:18px;width:18px}.LalRrQILNjt65y-p-QlWH rect{stroke:var(--newRedditTheme-metaText)}._3J2-xIxxxP9ISzeLWCOUVc{height:18px}.FyLpt0kIWG1bTDWZ8HIL1{margin-top:4px}._2ntJEAiwKXBGvxrJiqxx_2,._1SqBC7PQ5dMOdF0MhPIkA8{vertical-align:middle}._1SqBC7PQ5dMOdF0MhPIkA8{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-inline-flexbox;display:inline-flex;-ms-flex-direction:row;flex-direction:row;-ms-flex-pack:center;justify-content:center} I do get lonely sometimes but I just don't like interacting with people enough to be satisfied, nor do I have any friends that could scratch that itch. And Long term focus, I can't stay focused on doing something for more than a few days (Speaking Optimistically). its difficult for me sometimes to not try and analyse myself now, and try to figure out why my brain works like it does, and how i can go about pretending like i'm not affected by AS. I just can't maintain friendships. For example, I wasn't sure if I had to print the plane ticket out before check-in and almost had a meltdown at the airport. It's a fruitless endeavor for me. Socially I'm a rollercoaster, never too many highs but occasionally I'll have a climb where I feel I did well during a certain social situation. Use your knowledge of symptoms and Asperger’s dating tips only as inspirations. A person with Asperger's may feel raw emotion, but not be able to immediately identify it or its cause. All my "Relationships" with women have ended due to this, be it them getting the impression that I am either overly attached or the opposite, when in reality I felt similarly to all those girls (I did care about them, I have a tendency to fall for people to easily, and don't really know how to deal with it) but I couldn't just be natural with them. I have had significant success working past many of these, but they can still be problematic from time to time. But that picture only works for diagnosing men or boys with Aspergers. Women who have Asperger’s are different, not in the core characteristics of the condition, but in how they react to it. It can make it very difficult to finish work sometimes, as well as to handle basic maintenance things in my life. You're my aspietwin. To let me be clear I am an atheist so there wasn't any bargaining. Autism in College. When focused on a task it can take up to several seconds for me to context switch if interrupted. Press J to jump to the feed. I am very sensitive to 'changing' or 'sharp' sorts of pain, but exceptionally resistant to 'constant' and 'vague' sorts of pain. Social cue reading impairments. Eventually I was seeing a particularly sharp one, and working with her (and a careworker through another support agency), Asperger's was brought up and investigated, and eventually thoroughly tested for and diagnosed (at 23). Vague inferences and broad generalizations that NTs often make confuse me, irritate me, and are largely beyond my comprehension save for a meta-analysis of how they actually work. I find myself completely repelled by 'low level' socialization such as small talk, though I desire to connect with people on a more quality-over-quantity level. I must have tried several thing over the course of 3 months, learning a language, working out, learning to code, all of these things lasted a week maximum and then I gave up. They are eager to learn and study you and try and find a diagnosis. I was struggling to concentrate and this test could seriously make or break my future. After I was diagnosed I felt relieved but later I became depressed for awhile asking my friends what they thought about it with them not knowing what aspergers is and the spectrum that I'm at. I think I might have ADD too because my attention sucks too, it's the reason why I've never felt I've had obsessions like others claim. Except the mustard thing. Here's a good description of me: http://www.aspiestrategy.com/2012/05/hidden-autistics-aspergers-in-adults.html From outside - 'mild aspergers' or a bit geeky and weird. The way i process information and language, i give way more importance on the words being said then "body language" and use language to exchange information, not senseless babble about the most trivial shit, the biggest difference between me and nt's. And corn-on-the-cob and watermelon gets my face messy. Sp, don’t take this online test for a diagnosis either way. Also, I'm 26 years old and I have not touched a vegetable in years, which I know is unhealthy, but I have an extreme aversion to certain textures. Women tend to mask their social and communication difficulties in specific ways that are different from Those difficulties made it hard to make lasting friendships and because of that I just haven't felt compelled to make the effort. It's something I really hope I can fix so I can feel like I'm moving forward with my life. I feel very lonely a lot, even if I'm surrounded by people. Share on email . I was diagnosed at 40, Joanna at 36, but many women are diagnosed later than that. To start have him take this online test we offer free. i can form new routines, and as i've gotten older rules can be adapted or outright changed (over some time) but noise. 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Looking into someone's eyes, or even sometimes at their face, sends my mind racing. I hate looking for rooms at my university that I haven't been to, the prospect of getting lost in any way scares the shit out of me. Asperger’s syndrome is a neurobiological, developmental disorder related to autism. I don't know if I have anything else wrong with me (I don't know 1/2 of my genetic family tree) My parents had me diagnosed at an early age (3rd-7th I had lots of evaluations. The characteristics of Asperger’s must be noticeable in infancy or early childhood to receive the diagnosis of Asperger’s. I'm not really sure what the exact mix of circumstances it takes to trigger it are. As to how much I notice it? Physical touch is also awkward for me. out of context means, i can go and enjoy seeing live bands in loud clubs packed full of people, but that's because those conditions are "in context" (they make sense). Asperger’s syndrome was a unique diagnosis listed in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnosis and Statistical Manual of … If you are able go and see a therapist. Then my daughter was referred for a diagnosis, and I realised that the aspie community were where I fitted in - it just matched so many of my weird traits. Touch me when I'm not prepared for it and I'll probably jump a mile. Figuring out how people feel and what they expect of me is difficult. OCD is actually highly comorbid with ASD. Literally every other autistic person I've met is (not to be offensive) completely fucking unbearable. I feel a lot better once I recognised it. I was going to write a list of my own but after reading that, I don't need to. At university I got into a big argument with my flatmate because the smell from the kitchen (spiced meaty stuff) used to flow up into my room every morning and wake me up. Asperger's treatment can help children make social connections, achieve their potential, and lead a productive life. I know have a more accurate view of myself, my strengths, and my weaknesses. Other aspies I know are completely fine being alone all the time, but I fucking hate it sometimes. My personal distrust of my own self diagnosis (of any diagnosis). On the outside you wouldn't think I have AS, not at all. I avoid social situations wherever possible, and unavoidable large ones (like close family weddings) I get very anxious and uncomfortable, but I can tough it out for a few hours. Socially, I don't have much issues, I have a fairly sized group of close friends and acquainances and I've gotten to the point where I can actually enjoy social outings and will crave social activity, but if it's a large crowd (say 25+) I tend to crumble, unless I've had enough alcohol, but at that point I'm black out drunk and am making a fool out of myself and a whole lot of other aspie things come out, (Like my obsessions). What you said about staying focused made a lot of sense to me, I get myself motivated for something, say I want to learn something or start another hobby, I'll do that thing once or twice over a few days and then I wont do it again. I'm great with things like sarcasm and figures of speech, and use both regularly, but sometimes get befuddled by more ambiguous kinds of communication. I often launch into lecture mode if I want to explain something and have trouble stopping. We also welcome people with other autism spectrum disorders. 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